What exactly is recovery?
The dictionary defines recovery as:
…bring back to normal position or condition:
For many, the greatest difficulty is identifying what normal is. And it may be impossible for some to remember what life was like "before" because addiction has been a part of life from their earliest memory. Therefore, to bring back to normal means entering into a life-long quest to discover normality.
…to make up for:
This is a tall order. For some, it may seem as if a lifetime of right living will not make up for the acting out of the past. In truth, for the partner of a sex addict, that is very close to true. Sex addicts can never fully appreciate the injury done to a partner. But in the process of recovery, as long-term sobriety is established, and the sex addict and his/her partner learn new boundaries, a new way of relating, new sexual behaviors—to a large extent recovery does make up for what addiction took away.
…to find or identify again:
This may include re-identifying career and relationship goals as well as character traits the client wants to mark his life.
…to get back:
For the sex addict, recovery means reclaiming his life. Recovery means being able to look in the mirror and say, “I really like the person I see!”