Real Tools for Recovery That Actually Work

When your life has been rocked by compulsive sexual behavior, the path to healing can feel like a rocky, confusing, and lonely journey. Often the addicted partner has been trying to fight the battle against sex addiction for years, while the betrayed partner in a relationship can feel completely bewildered and at their wits end, doing what they can to try to support their partner without knowing how to take care of themselves in that process. 

Whether you’re the one struggling with addiction or the partner who's been betrayed, recovery often begins with a question:

“What am I supposed to do? How do I break free from this cycle?”

The truth is, most people trying to recover from sex addiction or betrayal trauma have good intentions, but very few have the tools they need to succeed. You might start strong, only to slip back into old patterns. You may make progress, only to hit the same wall again and again. The cycle of starting and stopping can feel endless.

That’s why tools matter. Not just information. Not just hope: Concrete, trauma-informed tools that help you plan, track, and actually implement your recovery.

The Right Tools for Real Recovery

The iRecovery 101 Course is the newest video course from Hope & Freedom University, our online learning platform for recovery. It was created to give both addicted individuals and betrayed partners what they need most: structure, support, and a realistic path forward.

It’s not just a collection of videos—it’s a vital toolkit for early recovery. Inside iRecovery 101, you’ll find practical exercises and recovery documents that help you:

Understand the Phases of Recovery

Recovery isn’t linear. The Phases of Recovery tool helps both partners understand where they are in the process and what’s realistic to expect from themselves and each other.

Build a Personal Recovery Plan

Map out your daily, weekly, monthly, and annual recovery activities. Learn how to set goals that aren’t just hopeful—they’re doable.

Track Progress with the iRecovery Points System

Recovery isn’t just about avoiding relapse—it’s about building something new. The iRecovery Points System helps you stay motivated by tracking positive recovery behaviors in a simple, encouraging way.

Rebuild Trust and Connection

While not every couple is able to survive the trauma of betrayal and sex addiction, it is our heart’s desire at Hope & Freedom to see relationships restored. And we’ve seen it happen, over and over again—couples are able to not just survive the storm but come out stronger on the other side, healed, whole, and living joyful, abundant lives. 

Maybe that sounds impossible where you are right now. It certainly is HARD. But it is possible.

In iRecovery 101, we have two full lessons for couples. The resources in these two lessons are designed to support communication, restore emotional intimacy, and set boundaries that protect both partners. Tools include:

• A guide for daily and weekly check-ins
• Sample safety, personal integrity, and relationship contracts
• Intimacy building, dating, and communication exercises
• Exercises to explore shared values and long-term vision

You’ll also find helpful tools for building a support network, combatting triggers, and regulating your nervous system when stress or triggers threaten to derail your progress.

Two Courses. One Strong Foundation.

Although it might be tempting to jump right into iRecovery 101’s life-changing toolkit, those who haven’t been in sex addiction therapy with a certified sex addiction therapist or who are unfamiliar with the realities of what they’re coping with should consider enrolling in Sex Addiction 101 first. 

Sex Addiction 101 is our foundational course designed to help you understand:

• What sex addiction really is (and what it isn’t)
• Why trauma, attachment, and shame fuel the addiction cycle
• The importance of rebuilding your identity after addiction and betrayal
• Why willpower and “trying harder” don’t work
• Why full disclosure and formal recovery planning are critical

Sex Addiction 101 lays the groundwork. iRecovery 101 gives you the tools to build on it.

If you’re serious about healing—whether individually or as a couple—this two-course sequence will set you up with both the understanding and the structure to move forward with confidence and clarity.

Start Today

You don’t have to stay stuck in the cycle of defeat, confusion, and despair. With the right tools, healing is possible.

Enroll in Sex Addiction 101 to understand the problem and what true recovery requires.

Register for iRecovery 101 to take the next step—with tools that work.

Your recovery doesn’t have to be perfect.

But it can be real. And it can start today.