If that is the goal of this adventure, what exactly is recovery?
The dictionary defines recovery as:
…bring back to normal position or condition:
For many addicts, the greatest difficulty is identifying what normal is. And it may be impossible for you to remember what life was like before addiction because it has been a part of your life from your earliest memory. Therefore, to bring back to normal means entering into a life-long quest to discover normality.
…to make up for:
This is a tall order. As with some addicts, it may seem as if a lifetime of right living will not make up for your acting out of the past. In truth, for your partner, that is very close to true; sex addicts can never fully appreciate the injury done to a partner. But in the process of recovery, as long-term sobriety is established, and you and your partner learn new boundaries, a new way of relating, new sexual behaviors, to a large extent recovery does make up for what addiction took away.
…to find or identify again:
This may include re-identifying your career and relationship goals as well as character traits you want to mark your life.
…to get back:
For you as a sex addict, recovery means reclaiming your life. Recovery means being able to look in the mirror and say, “I really like the person I see!”