S, CR-Washington

... again and I can tell that he is actively showing his love every day since the intensive. The hope that you imparted that my husband can actually stop his compulsive sexual acting out if he makes recovery a way of life.  The intervention that you did helped my husband see that he is an alcoholic, something that I have been unable to influence for 31 years. He is now in AA! I was really at my emptiest point after learning that my brother and my husband both betrayed me in acting out in unison. I saw no way out to resolve the betrayal of my brother and the pain of the collusion between them. You gave me hope that [my husband’s] recovery could influence my brother (also a sex addict you helped me to identify) to get help and maybe make amends with me some day. Your guidance for me to step back and under-function, so that [my husband] would step up. I felt protected by you when you helped me to understand that I needed to develop a letter in the event [he] ever relapsed. You also helped me feel empowered to ask for a separate account with 6 months of income. I keep playing the words that you said, "Nothing is sacred in sex addiction". That sentence is my comfort when I begin to ruminate on any thought that leads to "how could he have...". Your guidance to not demand but to tell [my husband] that I need for him to protect me. That calls on the man in him ... so true! The metaphor that you gave me about the wound I have that needs time to be cleaned out and tended. You have taught [my husband] well how to tend my wounds. He is doing a good job. [It was helpful] that there is a 90 day, 6 month and one year follow up with future annual check ins with Polygraph. I can relax knowing he will be polygraphed!  I cannot imagine going through discovery without the subsequent expert support and guidance of your program. You have given me hope. It was exhausting emotionally and physically and worth it! Thank you and God Bless you. We can't wait to be back."
CR, Washington
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