... I have constant validation of my feelings as well as gentle guidance to a better way of living. The most helpful part for me was a consistent validation that I had every right to be as upset, broken and hurt as he had made me. Everyone in my life has told me how wrong I am for being so upset at [my husband] and has tried to place equal blame on me. Never once was I told I was wrong or off base for feeling so defiled and betrayed. I actually got to say anything I wanted with no reservation for the first time EVER and it was OKAY! Then as we came home, that principle did not leave. It continued with you telling my husband I am going to be upset and angry and that he needed to be there to validate and support me in every one of those feelings. This was the first time he was ever told that.  The three-day intensive was without a doubt the worst, most hurtful, dark, depressing, angering three days of my life. It was also what saved my life. It saved my marriage. It saved my husband. And it gave me hope that my life could be better and fulfilling. I was all but dead walking through the doors, with little faith left in God, absolutely no faith or hope in my husband to be better, and just a few pounds of skin and bones left on me. On the second day, I felt God's hand reach down and hold me tight and guide me through the darkest day of my life which re-instilled my faith that God had never left my side. He was just waiting for the right time to make His move in our lives. I feel the intensive cut to the core of my husband’s narcissistic personality and put a mirror up in front of his face so he could see himself as he truly was for the first time ever. I feel like all the months and months of counseling we had gone to prior to the intensive were a giant waste of time and money because the counselor never called my husband out on his horrendous behavior and attitudes yet told me I was an equal part in the problem. The intensive is exactly what it sounds like, intense! Every day I was either talking, listening, writing, or processing what information I was given which took every ounce of energy and every second of my time while I was awake. You were so kind and gentle to me and made me feel that I was in a safe place where my words carried weight and my feelings would be appreciated and validated. You not only made it a safe place for me, you made it a safe place for my husband to be completely honest for the first time in his life. He never would have opened up had you not set the boundaries you did while he shared his disclosure, which I understand now in hind sight. It was extremely hard for me to sit there quietly and not say a word, but I understand the reasoning why now. I am still resentful that we had to go there in the first place and spend all that money, but I do think it was the best use of our money ever because of the results. From the bottom of my heart thank you. If it were not for you, marriages would not have a shred of hope. You just get it.

Thank you for being patient. [My husband] is doing great work. I'm so proud of him. It's hard but I feel that he is making great changes to the root of the problem. It's so helpful that I can actually feel feelings and he supports me in them. I thank God every morning noon and night for you and your program. You really have made out lives better."