S-AG, Rhode Island
At the intensive I was told that a good part of the reason we had the problems - finances, lack of support from [my husband], was because he was/is a sex addict and was putting all of his energy into that and not into the marriage. That helped me to realize all of the ways I also blame myself. I was drained and overwhelmed the first day after hearing the disclosure. I had a good cry, a really good long overdue cry. The second day was helpful for me because I felt supported and validated. I started to have hope for me, and that is something that I talked the talk prior to the intensive, but I never really felt that I had hope. I started to feel like a normal person again, and that felt really good. The third day gave us a plan to follow to work toward healing as a couple. We had never been given that structure before and I believe we need to have a game plan to follow. [You] were the first counselor that I have been to that actually understands what the partner is going through. [You] helped me to recognize my pain, blame, and shame. This is an all-encompassing disease, and [Hope & Freedom] treats it as such. It has been interwoven into the fabric of our relationship, and [you] have helped us to see that, and have helped us to start unraveling that mess!"
AG, Rhode Island