S-JK, North Carolina

... like I was married to the devil. I felt like I had been vomited on and did not know how I was going to continue in my marriage. It was the most traumatic experience, knowing that the man I loved and trusted could betray me in this way. I brought myself to God for direction. He kept me here in my marriage and has worked in me and my husband. That being said, Dr. Magness is brilliant and so helpful to both my husband and I. He gave us tools and encouragement to move through the journey of recovery. And that is just what we are doing. We are walking in recovery.  We have done 3 Aftercares since our 3-day intensive and due our 4th this month. The aftercare is a lifeline for me. It reinforces the truths that I need. Even though I am trying to rebuild trust for my husband, I really rely on the polygraph exams he has to do at each after care. Kind of like my lifeline to the renewing of trust.  Our relationship has its ups and downs. Much has to do with intimacy and with the trust struggles I deal with. However, we are still walking in recovery and both working hard to renew and recreate out marriage. I now lead a group at the church for women who have been betrayed by their husband’s sex addiction choices. This is something great! I pray that I give these women hope and encouragement in their own healing, whether with or without their husband’s. My husband continues to go to 12 step meetings and goes to a men's group through the church too. We have created good healthy boundaries now, and although sometimes hard to change what was what we knew, we do try and work really hard to keep these boundaries in place.  I would, and have, recommended the 3-day intensive to all the ladies in my group. I feel it gave a good foundation for healthy recovery. All lies out on the table and both husband and wife can move forward with clean slate to rebuild what should have always been. I know my husband and I would not be where we are today without it. I know our journey will never fully be over. But I feel we are on the right path. Thanks."
JK, North Carolina
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